July 18, 2014
July 13, 2014
You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.
from Dream Work by Mary Oliver
published by Atlantic Monthly Press
© Mary O
July 7, 2014
I hate it when people refuse to see me as a unique person with dissociation. One day I realized I do the same thing to other people. If I see a wealthy-looking blonde woman, I think she’s a snob. A man coupled with a covered woman is controlling, and/or abusive, and/or misogynist. I don’t know those people, and I know I don’t.
They don’t know me either.
I read an article on Awblogs by Grace Kim titled “I Am Not A Stereotype.” Here’s a quote from the article:
“Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s useful insight about the problem of stereotypes is ‘not that they are untrue, but that they are incomplete. They make one story become the only story.’ Imbedded in this notion of the ‘only story’ is the relationship-shaping factor of power. Human beings rarely tell one story about themselves – they are far too complex for that. An ‘only story’ is told and retold about people by other people. Adichie adds that ‘power is the ability not just to tell the story of another person, but to make it the definitive story of that person.’ And stereotypes are that powerful. They can, and do, define, categorize, and shape one person’s relationship with another.
Really made me think.
July 5, 2014
When I try to my mind blurs over and I believe that there is very little that is good. I’m going to be writing lists on the blog , now and then, so I can come back and look at them when I’m not thinking clearly.
Today I’m having a hard time thinking of any good I’ve done as a parent.
I took Micheal to the beach. We played miniature golf and I told funny stories that made him laugh.
One time we drove the car with me working the pedals and he the steering wheel. We’re still laughing about it 25 years later.
When he left home and wasn’t speaking to any of our family, I went and found him, even though I believed he had stopped loving me, and I would be crushed when he rejected me.
For a whole year I drove him to work at 5:00 AM in the morning when he didn’t have a car.
Bought him a car when he was 19. Never bought him a car again. He became responsible and bought his own car.
June 24, 2014
“I’ll never stop dreaming that one day we can be a real family, together, all of us laughing and talking, loving and understanding, not looking at the past but only to the future.”
June 20, 2014
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Originally posted on The AudioBookaneers:
Everyone has their own lists, but here’s ours: what we’re most looking forward to this month, in chronological order of release, with audiobook information if we know about it. (I tried holding the list to 10 as I managed for last month’s preview, but after a second pass cutting as much as I was close to happy with, I was still in the 30s. Trimming further to 25 was hard enough!)
Searchers After Horror edited by S.T. Joshi (Fedogan and Bremer, June 1) — The first of two anthologies on my list this month includes 21 “New Tales of the Weird and Fantastic” around the theme “the Weird place” and all but one are original to this anthology. Authors include (among others) Melanie Tem, John Shirley, Ramsey Campbell, Caitlin R. Kiernan, Steve Rasnic Tem, and Nick Mamatas (“Exit Through the Gift Shop”), all in a high-end hardcover edition which…
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